What’s Fear Have to Do with It?
By Amy Barnes What keeps you from following your dreams, from maybe even having dreams or from doing and being your best? Can you feel the fear by the tension in your shoulders or neck or your upset stomach or at 3:00am as you toss and turn and play those what ifs from your last relationship over and over and over again in your mind. So how do you deal with your fear? Do you constantly worry? Maybe youd love to fine the shut off valve for all those thoughts running around in your head: fear of what other people think, fear of losing a job, fear of not being good enough, fear of being rejected, fear of being committed, fear of being in over your head, fear of being alone, fear of being smothered or controlled by another person. Fear keeps us frozen, afraid to alter our course or to try something new. Fear keeps us numb and from being our best. Many of us are not aware of our fears. We have long ago stopped questioning them. Instead we just think thats how life is. We may not even think a better life is possible or that we are even worthy of a better life. Fear can keep you paralyzed from making decisions or fear can force you into making a decision long before you are ready to do so. Faith is the opposite of fear. Faith is a belief in the abundance of the universe. Faith is a belief that God loves us and wants the best for us. God created us and God does hear out prayers. Faith is also a belief in our own capability to believe in ourselves and to work towards what we want. Fear is about scarcity. Everything is in short supply and I probably wont get what I want. The more you tend to bring your fear in the light: to acknowledge it and to share it with others the more it seems to disappear. Try writing a list of all your fears no matter how large or how insignificant. Share your fears with a friend. Sharing your fear with another whom you trust, means you no longer have to deal with your fear alone. As a therapist I work with people whose fears as so great that they may feel out of control of their life or so overwhelmed by fear that they find little enjoyment in life. The more we fear the more stuck and limited our world becomes. As our faith in Gods abundance and love increases, we often find more abundance and love in our own lives. How do you start each morning, with your focus on fear or faith? Where would you like to put your focus? Copyright 2006 Barnes diverse background includes a seminary degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and Pastoral Counseling and a license as a Mental Health Counselor providing a foundation for her extensive experience and training in marriage counseling. Barnes has taught divorce recovery programs for six years and has written numerous articles on relationships and divorce as well as given a variety of talks and led workshops on divorce and relationships. With a focus is on relationships, both personal and professional, Ms. Barnes is considered a gentle, compassionate listener who assists individuals, couples and families in finding practical solutions. She helps people develop their own strengths and find greater possibilities and options for their lives. For more information go to: http://www.lifeoptions.us Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Amy_Barnes http://EzineArticles.com/?Whats-Fear-Have-to-Do-with-It?&id=285693 tampa car loan bad credit history jackson cash no teletrack payday loan 1 hour cash loans temecula hard money loan
